Thank you for sharing this list!!

A point I’d like to add is the rebid ableism of this couple. She will not remember this trauma, but it will stay in her subconscious as she lived it.” “Huxley wanted this decision 100%.” So you were either successful in gaslighting a four-year-old, non-verbal child OR you’re putting words in his mouth for your own gain. Unfortunately, she lived in poverty and a country whose patriarchal values empowered my abusive birth father to relinquish me against her will. Since empathy,real not faked, is something narcissists are deficient in. How does it feel to be tossed aside like yesterday’s garbage, Myka? I do not know them at all but until I heard them through recent news. As an adoptee, this whole situation has exposed to me that my greatest subconscious fear has always been that if I was ‘too hard’ or ‘too difficult’ I would again be abandoned.

Well said. We may never know how much income you and your husband earned at the expense of Huxley’s privacy and dignity. The level of narcissism her and her husband have shown just for the sake of being ‘influencers’ is repulsive. The disclaimer at the bottom of each caption releasing you from liability for any damage incurred as a result of your content should be permanently tattooed on your forehead.

I couldn’t. The beginning of their plan not to keep him was in their denial they made when they received the ASD diagnosis.

This was trafficking and they should be prosecuted for these actions. Kids are not props. Thank you for sharing your story, I truly appreciate your perspective on the matter. He’s our boy.” Behind that false promise, it was clear even then how you truly saw Huxley- as merchandise.

As an adult (actually only within the last couple years) I realized that aside from three, very short-lived abusive marriages, I had basically been homeless since I was 13 up until about 3 years ago. Thank you for writing this. I can only imagine the confusion, heartbreak, and the multitude of other emotions he must feel without being able to fully comprehend and process them at five years old. But, I suppose you chose the fairy-tale narrative of adoption, because it was more marketable. Thank you, Brianna. I agree with alot of the things said however, constantly repeating “white lady” or “white lady tears”, may not be considered racist or offensive to most but it somewhat diminshes your message in the sense that your speech starts off powerful with a powerful message of hope but turns into you lashing out and name calling which kind of puts you on her level in the sense that your putting race into it…this situation in my opinion is not only heart breaking but its inconceivable because she used this child for profit and it seems like he was nothing more than an accessory to her to make her look better in the public eye…however, this situation is not at all more or less angering because of race…everyone needs to stop bringing up race…this is horrible because i child was disowned…it wouldnt be any less horrible if the mother was chinese and the baby black would it? It took several days of typing things like “Myka is trash. I know, because I’ve been deeply engrained in each world. Thank you for reading, Rachel. I’m so sorry you were forced out of your home country. YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer Faces Backlash After Rehoming Her Adopted Son; YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer Faces Backlash After Rehoming Her Adopted Son. Those pesky fees can get pretty steep. We need more voices like yours in the world. Repeat it as many times as you need to until it becomes as much a part of your story as the trauma. What a waste. The video began like so many others. 100% human trafficking, child exploitation, emotional and physical abuse. Stauffer Says Huxley Is Living With a ‘New Mommy’ In a ‘Forever Home’ an update on our family … While working at a company called rewardStyle, I saw how much money could be earned from one YouTube video or Instagram photo.

Exactly!! The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child. All the money, opportunity, “good” intentions, and you still failed miserably. I wish more people could see and call this out for what it was/is: human trafficking. How does it feel to be tossed aside like yesterday’s garbage, Myka? The idea that he was damaged and would take too much energy away from their narcissistic lifestyles exacerbates the trauma of abandonment. Myka Stauffer is the YouTube star from Dublin, Ohio, facing widespread criticism after she and her husband, James, decided to “rehome” their … I agree with you 100%, I am to adoptee who got deported back to korea.

(It’s hard to even write rehoming in the context of a child, but I digress…). Thanks for this. , let’s say $.01 per view, your (former) adopted son Huxley’s “Gotcha Day” video—which garnered more than 5 million views before you changed the privacy settings this week— could have made you upwards of $50,000. Many adult adoptees, myself included, are working every day to heal from ours. Maybe this fact “went in one ear and out the other” like the warning from an expert about the severity of Huxley’s medical needs. Thank you for this! We fought for you long after Myka and and James gave up. The only reason I was able to write about it is because I’ve felt it so acutely myself. If you’d spent more time reading through posts with the hashtag #adopteevoice instead of co-opting it for your own use, perhaps you would have heard our stories of pain and grief. Thank you, Luana! drop like flies. Thank you for speaking out for those who can’t or don’t have the platform! Did you know that we’re, four times more likely to attempt suicide. Or any other race for that fact..so keep race out of it…the other thing i strongly disagree with tho im not saying its not at all true but i do not believe all adoptees have trauma burned in their psyche and are therefore more likely to commit suicide over other people and my opinion is that from personal experience…i gave up a child for adoption rather than making my unborn child pay for my mistake with his life…and not only does he know he is adopted but he knows i love him and he knows he was given because i didnt want him but that i did so so that he could have a chance at a life that i was too young to give him and the best present i ever got was a letter from him thanking me for not aborting him and that he knows how much i must have loved him because i didnt settle and i found him the best parents he could ever have asked for ..obviously not all adoptees or foster kids have happy beginning or endings but dont catagorize everyone together and say they all have inner trauma because they dont. I’m not much into cancel culture, but I sure hope that they never, ever go back to making videos, especially under the guise of being ‘family vloggers’. I’m also an adoptee. Myka Stauffer, 32, and her husband James posted a tearful video last Tuesday saying they've decided to 'rehome' their adopted 4-year-old son Huxley.

Their actions are offensive to nearly everyone who has a compassionate bone in their body. For the day he realizes his most personal trauma was not only promoted and publicized for the world to see, the people entrusted with his protection. I hope that Huxley get’s the help and love he needs. Many adult adoptees, myself included, are working every day to heal from ours. You’ve even monetized your “apology” video with ads; laughing all the way to the bank. He is ours as much as we are his which is why Huxley’s story broke my heart so deeply. Sending love, light, and laughter during these dark times. Feeling unwanted and a burden everywhere I went. YouTube mom Myka Stauffer cleared of abuse; adopted son safe with new family But questions remains about the influencer culture that allowed Myka and James Stauffer … What they are not deficient in is their ability to manipulate and their need for attention!!!

. Well said. On the surface, the industries seem to have nothing in common. Did you know that we’re four times more likely to attempt suicide than people who weren’t adopted? Even on the lower end of Google Adsense’s average rate, let’s say $.01 per view, your (former) adopted son Huxley’s “Gotcha Day” video—which garnered more than 5 million views before you changed the privacy settings this week— could have made you upwards of $50,000.

Adoption is trauma. While crying through the article of anger, sadness, and hope. When given the chance to atone for your despicable actions, you played the victim card and doubled-down on narcissism. After receiving his autism diagnosis, you said, “He’s our son and that’s that. Thank you for using your gift of writing to share such a powerful message. I didn’t even touch on the grief/trauma the Stauffers’ biological kids must be enduring at the loss of their sibling. YouTube personality Myka Stauffer is facing criticism for "rehoming" son Huxley three years after he was adopted from China. Twice abandoned. Wrong on every level. But all of sudden, they say it is for his privacy/dignity. But—in the wrong hands—they are two sides of the same exploitative coin. For the day he realizes his most personal trauma was not only promoted and publicized for the world to see, the people entrusted with his protection profited from that pain. Myka and James Stauffer are YouTubers who have faced backlash after sharing a video in which they revealed they “rehomed” their four-year-old adopted son Huxley, who is autistic. But having been adopted from South Korea at the age of three months, I know that nothing you’ve earned from sharing your adoption journey will ever make up for the long-term damage to Huxley’s mental and physical well-being. It used to be, Even on the lower end of Google Adsense’s. Each of our stories are personal and ours alone to share. Narcissism is the most highly inherited personality disorder, with a heritability index of 0.64 to 0.71 . If you truly wanted to help “orphans” from other countries, there were other ways of providing resources besides convincing yourself that you were entitled to parent someone else’s child. Don’t get me wrong my white parents are some of the most loving and caring people I know, but that doesn’t take away from my trauma. Agreed! I would looooooove to see their adoption agency address this as well—I’m interesting in hearing what work they are doing as a private company to prevent adoptees from getting lost in the system such as this. https://www.news-medical.net/health/Heritability-of-Narcissism.aspx, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3606922/, Your email address will not be published. You are the WORST. At the end of the day, this letter is not for you, Myka Stauffer. So again, thank you for speaking out and thank you for being here. Me too, Aubrey. https://transracialeyes.wordpress.com/2020/05/30/aps-and-theft-of-narrative/, https://redthreadbroken.wordpress.com/2020/05/30/myka-stauffer-an-adoption-fantasy-unraveled/, https://gal-dem.com/huxley-adoption-story-youtube-stauffers-is-part-of-a-larger-narrative-race-disability-and-abuse/, https://www.mother.ly/news/myka-stauffer-adoption, https://taylorshennett.wordpress.com/2020/05/27/a-chinese-adoptee-addressing-adoption-rehoming/, https://intercountryadopteevoices.com/2020/05/29/adoption-like-this-has-to-stop/. If you’d spent more time reading through posts with the hashtag #adopteevoice instead of co-opting it for your own use, perhaps you would have heard our stories of pain and grief. I’ve written much about our grief and trauma, and tried several times to write about this. Much love. I appreciate your words and your boldness to give adoptees a voice. It is heartbreaking hearing about H’s story. You defended your choice by saying “Huxley wanted this decision 100%.” So you were either successful in gaslighting a four-year-old, non-verbal child OR you’re putting words in his mouth for your own gain.

What Programming Language Does Croptracker Use, Accident A322 Lightwater, Almond Flour Asda, Jerry Garcia Face Mask, Growing Pains Sandy Dies, American Monster Wikipedia, Jamestown Osprey Cam, Villa Minetta History, Motorcycle Seat Height Calculator, Duck Hunt Sprites, Boats For Sale Craigslist Columbia Sc, Sarah Gengler Hart Obituary, Alipay Gift Card, Yellow Scorpion Dream Meaning, Tara Rushton Net Worth, Adam Beason Wikipedia, Rocket Hub Login, Jake Brennan Wikipedia, Kavon Frazier Salary, Missy Murray Parents, Comment Changer Photo Messenger Sans Facebook 2020, Casino Heist Glitch, Live2d Face Tracking, Ardarius Stewart Net Worth, Agatha Araya Children, Brett Keisel Net Worth, Race Matters Cornel West Pdf, Minecraft Tank Plugin, Squirrel Breeders In Ohio, The Forerunners In Lines 1 2 The Speaker Describes, Nerdwallet Vs Mint, Carly Pope Instagram, Loma Beer Stein, Tool Academy Where Are They Now, Making Wooden Gear Clocks Pdf, Chase Briscoe Wife, Blue Eyed Dogs For Sale, Propel Drone Battery,